Okay I know I have not blogged for the longest time ever but I really did not have anything solid to blog about and like I was really caught up with life, hence having neglected my blog for the longest time ever lol o my it has been almost a year since I last blogged?? I AM SO SORRY. Aaaand I guess today I wanna blog cause I'm finally getting into the ~mood~ and also cause it's been too damn long since I last wrote a post. Ehm, the topic I'm gonna be blogging about is something that has been stuck on my mind for quite some time, and I guess the best thing to get my thoughts out there would be through blogging it!
WHAT IS HAPPINESS, TO YOU?
I asked myself this question several times and there was never a time I had a definite answer. And I guess that's just how it is, happiness is not definite, it is just what you allow it to be. What you want for yourself. To be honest, this past month has been a huge blur and I have no idea what I'm doing. I have not been able to laugh openly and not feel a pang of void in my heart. Then it hit me, the fuck jyo you are not even letting yourself be happy, how could you possibly be happy?
There are times when I've found comfort in solitude and truly immerse in the fact that I am there for myself and I don't really need anyone else and there are also times when I've been in a group and still felt lonelier than I've ever been. And that's when I realised you do you, there are times when you just need to shut yourself away from the world, eat a tub of ice-cream on your own, binge-watch 5 series' at a go aaaaand ykno what? That is completely fine, so long as you find your peace of mind and you feel.. happy. You don't need validation from anyone else to set things right for yourself, you need your approval and your choices are truly what matters at the end of the day. I'll be listing 7 things that I find paramount on the pursuit of happiness.
1) Don't justify your actions. If there is ever a time you have been made to take a rational but difficult decision, don't seek justification for it. There are times when you are put in the face of adversity and made to choose between the evidently right and the wrong but it might not coincide with everyone's opinion. Do what you think is right; follow your heart but take your mind with you. The more you find yourself trying to explain yourself, the harder it will be for you to settle into your decision hence leaving you feeling like total shite and it honestly just affects you more than you realise because you are agreeing to something against your will. Hence, do what you think is right but at the same time think whether it will have negative outcomes. Don't do something that you don't feel good about just because everyone else is doing it.
2) Mindset. I think after all this time, this is one point I can really concur with. Your day starts off good if your mindset towards it is good. If you wake up one morning and you tell yourself awwww yissss I'm gonna have a fucking good day, chances are, you probably will. Only when you allow yourself to be happy, will you truly experience what it truly means to be freely happy. Go out and have the best day of your life~
3) Priorities. If you ever find yourself not receiving not enough time from your friends, it is completely fine. They too have their priorities and things to tend to, as much they like it or not. But this point really started applying once I started realising that we are growing up, we are no longer the same teens with a shitload of time on our hands. We have our assignments to look after, school, family and other relationships to tend to. So, if you have friends who aren't giving you as much time as you would like, try putting yourself in their shoes and question whether you too would be able to balance all the responsibilities. And I also came to light that if you have friends that every once in a while check up on you despite how busy they are and how much distance there is between you guys, just know you're blessed. Don't stress over friendships because those that stay till the end through thick and thin are really the ones you need.
4) Don't wait on other people. If you constantly find yourself waiting on other people, move the fuck on. If the person equally treated you with the same feelings, he/she would not ever make you feel like you are asking for more than you deserve. If you ever find yourself stuck in a situation where you are always the one taking the initiative for everything and always being more committed than the other party, there is obviously something wrong between the relationship shared. Don't keep giving out your hand when the person is not even willing to take it. Move on and realise you deserve better treatment. Once you let go of such toxic people from your life, will you find yourself feeling less obligated to do things that actually is required of you. Your happiness is not affirmed by the amount of affection someone gives you. Be your own cinnamon roll :+)
5) Happiness is fucking important. The day you start to realise that petty temporary shit isn't as important as you think it is, is the day you will allow yourself redemption. We are all part of something larger than ourselves and truthfully this period of time you're facing right now is probably just a fleeting phase. This too shall pass. Allow happiness to come crushing into your life, open your doors to better possibilities. Be there for yourself and be your own form of contentment. At the end of the day, you'll be the only person there for yourself, like it or not, so start doing things that make you happy and not things that you don't even have your heart set into. Take yourself out on dates, eat a whole pizza on your own, go for walks, sit under the stars and start appreciating your own company.
6) Forgive people. Sometimes, shit happens whether it was a mistake or simply done by choice. And, holding a grudge is only gonna make you more miserable and full of spite. Let shit go, forgive people but don't forget. In the bigger picture, you will definitely be the person who is sensible enough to understand that yea sometimes, people disappoint us but heck, this is life, you can't always expect people to go by your rules. Live a little. Sometimes you just gotta say "fuck it" and move on with life. There are better things and opportunities waiting for you in life.
7) The right kind of people. This is probably one of the most important points. Surround yourself with people who make you want to be a better person, the kind of people who encourage you, complement you as a person and make you see your strengths, ones that you didn't even know about. Live for the people who make your stomach ache from laughing so bad, for the kind of people who are not embarrassed by your silly antics and weird sense of humour, the kind of people who are always down for whatever you say, the kind of people who give you a happy buzz in your stomach after you've spent the day with them. Life is too short for you to be surrounded by negative people who don't even see the fucking gem you are! Expand your social circle and mingle with people, enough to see that yea there are people out there who genuinely like me for the person I am. The right kind of people are those that bring out the best in you, who make you see the silver lining in the dark clouds. And if you're lucky enough to have such people in your life, embrace them and remind yourself how fucking lucky you are. The kind of company you keep is extremely essential upon the way you look at things and the way you perceive life as a whole. Positive vibezzz all the way!
I guess that is pretty much it for today's post and heck, truth be told, now that I'm done with this blogpost I can honestly say that I truly know what I can expect from life now. It gets hard sometimes but every so often you need to be reminded about the better things in life and how to pursue them. I didn't write this blog post with the intention of changing one's perspective of things but I really do hope I managed to spark something or even come up with a revelation. Thank you for sticking around and hearing me out :+) x
ALSO, I turned 18! (like 1 and a half months ago) wooopie lolz I'm legally an adult. I think other than that not much significant things have occurred in my life, oh and also, my AS level results are coming out in 11 days and I'm shitting my pants lmao, fingers crosssssssed I don't wanna be kicked out of my house just yet ;___;
And and, I'm gonna try my best to be consistent as hell with my blog posts, I know I always say this but I really do like blogging but it's just that I don't really have things to blog about cuz my life wouldn't exactly be defined as "exciting" & "happening" buuuuut if you guys want me to blog about any particular topic, feel free to drop a suggestion on my ask! (ask.fm/purrger) :) Thank you once again for sticking around, muacks!
Hope you liked it!
xo, jyoti.
